Brokenness. Unmet expectations. Drowning health. Never-ending Pain. How is this a recipe for success for a top selling real estate broker? Six months into our marriage, my husband (Gordon), who had once been a top Chiropractic Doctor, was now in the hospital with his nervous system shut down from nerve pain that continuously burned like fire. The condition is called Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, otherwise known as Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD), which was the result of traumatic accidents that led to him having multiple (4) neck surgeries. Two beautiful boys were staring at us, Jacob (stepson and age 7) and Kristofer (my son and age 4). As my husband was crying in pain, he looked up to me and said, “We still have to praise God.” I couldn’t believe his determination through the fire of pain. I didn’t have any praise inside of me. Yet, his persevering attitude gave me strength that I didn’t realize that I had down deep within me. He told me that I needed to have a career in case something dire was going to happen to him. What kind of deal is this? – I thought. A new bride with a new family and everything that was hoped for was briskly taken away. Yet through it all, I had to make an immediate choice… to either run or to face the monster of pain. We faced it as a family, all of us, together.
My first year of real estate began at home, about 10 feet away from my husband who was in bed down the hallway. Our kids were active, and Gordon did his best to show them joy in the midst of all the hardships. Giving ideas for the efficacy of business and leadership, Gordon was my greatest advocate. I felt like the least of these, not qualified to provide for the family or for that matter, to effectively run a small business. I had all the drive inside of me without direction until my Gordon helped me to focus… and pain has a way of making the nonessential things of life to briskly disappear. I quickly learned that hard work and perseverance always pays off.
By year two, I had my first assistant who helped to ground me and she set some great systems into place that are still somewhat utilized today through the Top Producer program. Flash forward to year 20 of my real estate practice – 265-plus million of personal sales and over 275-plus million of real estate brokerage sales since 2009.
Gordon has, against all odds from several of his medical providers, endured and overcome much adversity, though he still secretly fights with varying degrees of daily pain. He has been part of the backbone of the real estate practice as COO, and I have been the one who has operated the brokerage at the licensed, Managing Broker level. Through the years we have built a classy, boutique brokerage shared with high quality agents, and our business is built on long-term referrals.
Our theme is based on “Health and Home,” as we have incorporated a lifestyle (philosophy) of healthy living, such as diet, faith and exercise (particularly Pilates), as a complement to our high-level, innovative brokerage concepts at Selley Group Real Estate, LLC.
Pilates has been one miracle that has helped my husband and me to gain better health and more strength so that we can endure throughout a blistering market. Our tightly knit real estate group operates more like a physician’s practice, where we cover for each other, share innovative ideas and strategies, and also to keep our lives accountable toward the philosophy to live each day as the best we can. (And yes, oftentimes it takes another to remind us that there is life beyond the boundaries of business). Simply, we empower our clients to make the best real estate decisions possible with our expert and varying market insights. We put client service above the deal and we do not stuff our clients into boxes for the purpose of a sale. Essentially, Selley Group Real Estate, LLC is a safe harbor for clients and agents alike – to connect and to thrive in our fast-changing real estate market.
Our once a time ago 7-year old Jacob is now 29 years old. He now resides in Sydney, Australia with his beautiful wife, Rebecca, who is a Broadway singer and is currently performing in the Broadway show, named Beautiful. Jake is thriving in his career at Oath in digital platform marketing. And from their family, we are proud grandparents to a gorgeous 16-month old grand baby named JJ, who brings us regular FaceTime chats, big smiles, childlike curiosity and indescribable joy.
Regarding our once 4-year old Kristofer, he is now 26 years of age and has his undergraduate degree in Film. A visionary in art, Kristofer is the head of our media, creating amazing videography and photography of our listings as well as our city. Also, he is matriculating at UCCS in pursuit of his Master’s Degree. My mom, Bettye, also is an important part of our daily lives, and it’s a joy to share in her golden season of this journey.
Besides taking walks along the mountain trails, my heart gets reset at the water. This is why we own a second home in Destin, FL, where we also participate in the vacation rental market. This investment strategy is a wonderful complement to our real estate business in Colorado Springs and connects two beautiful places together for our family and friends.
For me, the art of the business is my love. And I, as well as our group, firmly believe in promoting the lifestyle of Colorado Springs. For example, besides my duties as a Managing Broker, I have the honor to serve as the 2017 Peak Producers President. This organization has promulgated the connection between top-selling agents and community to intersect at a deeper, heartfelt level. Regarding our fundraising campaign, we are almost ready to meet our largest goal to date as an organization, raising $50,000 for a work readiness program at the Springs Rescue Mission. Nothing gives me more life in real estate than to realize that it creates an opportunity to be a steward for the community of Colorado Springs.
Fueled by gluten free goodies, daily workouts, and the encouragement and support of those in this community, I’m living proof that if you wait long enough, there is hope against all hope. And now – there’s a calling for me to share that hope with clients and peers alike. Prayer is never for profit. Sometimes it’s the art of the “Un-sell” that best flexes its real estate muscle. I’m still learning to embrace my own story, the beautiful and ugly parts, so that I have the strength to authentically engage with others and to serve them with compassion.
I’m so grateful to have been able to see the fruit of holding on against all hope to see life spring forth in my family as well as this terrific city! The ability to endure has been a God-given grace. My thoughts about the future… I am thankful to live in curiosity and to serve families into their next generation of home selling and buying!